Coping With the Loss of Your Loved One
The loss of a loved one is a devastating experience. The news is always met with despair and deep sadness, followed by fear of a future without his presence.
After all, how do you live in your absence? How to enjoy the good times? How do get through difficulties without your support? The prospect of a life without your loved one can be daunting, especially when the bond between you is strong.
The death of a loved one implies a big change in the life of the one who stayed. She will live only in memories, warming her heart with her memory and missing her. The house gets a little emptier, the days a little quieter and the plans for the future no longer have a member.
How to deal with all this?
Grief is the emotional state people find themselves in after the loss of a loved one. A feeling of emptiness settles in the chest as if life has lost some of its purposes. It can take months or even more than a year for those who have suffered this loss to feel good again.
Experts have identified five stages of mourning:
According to experts, the stages of grief are an expected emotional response in this situation. Thus, they must be felt and expressed healthily so that people can cope with the loss of a loved one.
When not managed well, however, grief becomes a hindrance to mental and physical health, career, relationships, financial life, personal goals, and other areas of life. It can lead to feelings of loneliness, guilt, apathy, loss of identity, and even suicidal ideation.
How to deal with the loss of a loved one?
Loss means the end. The end of a friendship or love relationship. The end of daily contact, eye-to-eye conversations, exchange of experiences, hugs, kisses, and plans made together. While the end is a concept we’re all familiar with, it’s still hard to prepare for this fateful moment and even harder to deal with it.
The way each person faces the loss of a loved one is unique as it depends on personality, emotional intelligence, life experiences, faith, and the intensity of the affective bond.
As these elements differ from one individual to another, the stages of grief are also felt differently, even among family members.
Some people suffer for a long time while others can manage their emotions and the suffering of grief is minimized. In this way, they can dedicate themselves to daily tasks despite the sadness. Also, not all people experience all five stages in the order described above.
Although the end is painful, it is possible to learn to deal with and live with it more healthily. See below for our tips for coping with the loss of a loved one.
Allow yourself to be sad
Allow yourself to feel all the feelings that arise with grief. Be sad, be angry, be homesick. If you suppress how you feel, it can cause you serious emotional complications, such as stress and anxiety. It is not wrong to live in mourning. You just have to be careful not to persist in negative emotions for a long time.
Have patience with yourself. If it takes weeks, months, or more than a year to get used to your loved one’s absence, that’s fine. Be patient with your emotional setbacks, negative thoughts, and confusion about how to live from now on. Let time heal your wounds and live one day at a time.
Remember good things
When sadness comes, remember good things about your loved one. Revisit fun and joyful moments, as well as those that deepen your relationship. Thus, you will learn to smile when you remember who is gone.
Try to keep your normal lifestyle
Little by little, return to your normal lifestyle. Study, work, chat, plan and relate. Avoid making drastic changes. Keeping the lifestyle as it once added to the sense of security in this difficult time.
Forgive yourself for all the things you wish you had said and didn’t say, as well as what you wish you had done and didn’t. Guilt exacerbates the sadness of someone who has lost a loved one.
Take a break
Don’t just think about your loss. Go to the movies, learn a new skill, go on a trip and take a course. In other words, diversify your experiences so that your mind is distracted from the sadness even if momentarily.