Do You Like Him/Her?!!!
The very first assessment you should carry out before you proceed to read this article is to find out how much you like this person to be willing to put in all the effort to make this work. So if you know deep down that this person is not the priority as regards love in your life, then you should save him/her the heartbreak and end it immediately.
A popular saying goes, “it’s not the distance that separates, it’s the silence”. This sentence simply explains that one of the key elements and the most important of them is communication. This determines the growth or downfall of a relationship depending on how much effort and creativity is put into your day-to-day conversations. Written below are some of the few things you need to know about communication between lovebirds and how to spice up your long-distance relationships to seem as if you are only next-door neighbors.
“You don’t have to call me every day”….. If you hear this sentence coming from someone you are in a long-distance relationship with, without mincing words RUN. Communication is paramount even though you are in a relationship with your roommate; talk less of when you are in a relationship with someone in another city, state, or country. Another thing you should keep in mind about the concept of communication in relationships is that there is nothing like over-communication in a relationship.
One of the advantages of proper communication is that you are pouring yourself into this person through chats and in no distant time, you find him/her finishing your sentences and speaking your mind before you voice it out.
Since communication is key… Below are the points that enhance communication for a long-lasting relationship.
“NEVER ASSUME”. Kindly go back and read those two words again. Assumptions have broken a lot of relationships; you don’t need to add yours to the list when you already have access to this information. Any sentence you feel can be easily misunderstood; don’t hesitate to explain what exactly you mean.
If you need something done, please ask. Stop playing with other people’s emotions, especially if you are at the beginning stages of your relationship.
Mere communication isn’t just enough. Giving accurate and intentional details when answering questions asked by your lover is better. Avoid monosyllabic responses like “I’m fine”, “work was great, thank you”, “I’ve eaten, thanks”, et cetera. Give as much detail as you can.
For instance, a question like “Hey babe have you had anything to eat today?” Your response can look like this, “Yes I have, but not much. I’ve been so busy at work I barely had time to think of food, but now you mentioned it, let me go make something in the kitchen. What would you recommend?”. For this small explanation, you just introduced a whole new topic of discussion, you’ll find yourself discussing different types of food with your partner, and before you know it, you both have talked for hours without even realizing it. You need to talk about any and everything with your boo. Talk about the weather, how your day went in detail, beliefs, what you saw on the news et cetera.
Be intentional about your conversations because they are the elements you use in laying a strong foundation for your relationship.
Expressing Emotions Sincerely
To add a little bit to my fourth point, be vocal about your emotions too. Say how you feel about certain situations and politely turn down any conversation that makes you feel uncomfortable. Hiding your true emotions will not only make you feel the physical separation more but will also get you mentally and emotionally detached from your partner.
Subsequently, you hear sentences like, He doesn’t understand me and she doesn’t even listen to me. Endearments cannot be overemphasized, especially for the guys. Say “I love you” as often as you can. Say it in a thousand different ways, but whatever you do, do think because you said it on Monday, you’ll have to say it again on Saturday.
Try as much as you can, as often as you can to assure your partner your heart is with them always. This is one of the most effective ways of handling a lack of trust and that insecure feeling that creeps in, in long-distance relationships.
Spice up conversations (Do Not Be Boring)
Finally, as much as checking up on each other’s daily routine, by asking how each day went, is important, try not to allow your conversations to become monotonous and boring. Create funny and helpful content to aid your everyday conversations.
You can even make a conversation plan. For instance, Mondays we talk about work, our goals, what we have achieved so far, and what we want to achieve. You can tag Friday’s funky nights, and try out dozens of lovers’ games online.
Wrapping up. We need to accept that communication is paramount in every relationship, but if you are going to survive the lonely nights, doubts, and insecurities that long-distance relationships come with, then you have to make communication a priority amongst every other thing you both do.
The amount of effort you put into your communication will determine if your relationship will last or will crash. Put in more effort today!!!